Boob or Nothing

Ok so Mia started using a bottle at around threes weeks old when we started supplementing with some formula. She continued to breastfeed first and then take the bottle for a top up. I started using the lact-aid to supplement at the breast and give up pumping. This was three weeks ago. The pump and the bottle got a nice rest and everything was going smoothe or so I thought. That was until I decided to go to the nail salon (which I hadn’t done in months) and leave Mia and Jayden with my mom at my place. I had no idea how attached this child really was to my boob until I pumped and was getting ready to leave as my mom tried to give her a bottle. The second she tried to latch onto the bottle she starts crying out of control and was inconsolable. I tried to help by doing things like giving my mom a used shirt of mine for smell, having her walk around while feeding her, and even singing.

I was told to go to the nail salon and she would calm her down. I really believed my mom could get a grip of things. I mean how hard is it to feed a baby right? Wrong! The nail salon is literally steps away from my apartment so I went ahead and to my surprise I get a phone call 10 minutes later. She was not having it. She wanted mommy and only mommy would do. So I suggested using a medicine dropper to “syringe feed” her and wadda ya know, it actually worked. Drinking a full 3oz with the dropper.

What a delema I had no idea what I was starting when I decided to use the lact-aid and put away the bottle. No one else feeds her so I didn’t use the bottle but wow! I’m glad she did take the dropper because we have a family outing with our oldest today. I will be hugging the pump every two hours today.

Breastfeeding in Public?…Inappropriate!

I had been waiting all day yesterday for some time to post this. I was watching the Wendy Williams Show yesterday and they put a picture of a young mother breast feeding her baby at her graduation. So three of her guess and herself went on to bashing this girl for being inappropriate and talking about how she should have pumped before she left the house or why she didn’t just hand the baby over to the father for a bottle. They just went on and on about how there being a time and place and how she was taking away from her graduation by breastfeeding her baby. “There is a time and a place” they said!! There is a time and a place to be hungry? Really? Because last I checked we all get hungry whenever we need to eat regardless of where we are. Her baby should not have choose the graduation to get hungry because that is not the time or the place to be hungry.

Walking down the sidewalk eating? Is that the time and the place?

Eating in your car? Is that the time and the place?

Eating in your office for lunch? Is that the tine and the place?

How about outside at a food vendor? Is that the time and the place?

Please do tell me where is this magical time and place to feed our children!

i mean you have to be kidding me. How ignorant does a human being have to be to go as far to practically say breastfeeding. a baby can ruin a graduation? One of the woman said she breastfeed her four children. She should be taking a stand not putting women down. Maybe she felt intimidated. I don’t know but just drives me crazy knowing that women could be catty, petty, and ignorant towards each other. People saying things like that is what makes some moms ashamed to breastfeed in public. That’s why some moms feel the need to cover there babies up or go to the bathroom to breastfeed. I wish those people who judge women for breastfeeding in public would try to eat with a blanket over their head or in a public bathroom for a day.

We were created with breast to feed our babies not to please men. Our breast are the original bottles and pacifiers. That’s why the tip of a bottle and a pacifier is called a nipple. They wouldn’t cover their babies head while feeding their baby in public with a bottle or hide away in the bathroom. So why is it that people are so ignorant about breastfeeding.

 

Its ok…

for a Victoria Secret ad to be seen publicly in a mall and on tv where there are children walking around.

for a celebrity to wear a see through dress and be photographed for the entire world to see and be called a fashion icon

for a women to wear a bikini with her breast hanging out

for women in music videos to shake their stuff almost naked

…but its not acceptable when…

a mom wants, no no, NEEDS to breastfeed their child in a restaurant

a mom needs to soothe her crying baby

a baby is hungry and NEEDS to eat

Oh how dare we feed our babies in PUBLIC!!!?? How dare our child be hungry when we are not home! How dare that lady not take her infant/toddler to that filthy, stinky public bathroom to eat!? Right? How dare she not put a blanket over her baby to cover up while he’s eating? Because we all know how bad eating in public can be.

I mean seriously why are these people who have such a strong opinion about not breastfeeding in public, just not looking away? No one is telling you to stare. If it bothers you that much don’t look.

We are just feeding our children!